So. I did a thing. 😌🎧
I’m on The Erotic Realm for Episode #70 of Psychology of Desire, titled “Call Me Phoenix: Voice, Intimacy & the Psychology of Auditory Eroticism.” The host, Emma and I get into the kind of conversation that makes you feel like leaning in closer.
This episode is for anyone who’s ever thought, “Why does a voice do more to me than video,” and then immediately tried to pretend they didn’t just think that.
We talk about voice-based desire, the weirdly powerful intimacy of sound, and why listening can sometimes feel safer, hotter, and more personal than anything visual. We also touch on phone sex, asexual audios, and that whole fascinating space where erotic audio can feel like both a spark and a soft place to land.
Basically, it’s a little psychology, a little kink, and a lot of “yes, you’re not alone in that.”
Why you should press play [besides the obvious]
- You want the “why” behind the turn-on. Not in a clinical way, in a “finally, someone gets it” way.
- You’re into audio, or curious about it. Even if you don’t call it a kink, your headphones do.
- You like desire that’s intimate without being performative. No stage lights, no posing, just presence.
- You want something sexy that also has a brain. The kind of episode you finish and then stare at the ceiling for a second like, “Well… okay then.”
- You’ve ever felt more seen through listening than looking. That one hits different, doesn’t it?
You can listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or in a web browser.
Go hit play and let me be the reason you take the long way home, the reason the dishes take a little longer, the reason you suddenly need “a minute” before you answer anyone’s texts.
And if you listen, come back and tell me which part made you smirk. 😈📲
If you want more from Emma beyond this episode, go explore her work at Psychology of Desire on Substack: it’s packed with thoughtful, sex positive writing that actually treats desire like something worth understanding. And if you want to nerd out on the science side too, here’s the research article we reference on ASMR and its effects on mood and the body.
